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For this week I focuses on reading and focusing on two main articles .These articles included
Link to "what kind of message help a child grow"here
Link to "Five Reasons to stop saying Good Job" here
- "What kinds of messages help a kid grow".This article by Deborah Farmer Kris and focuses on the type of praise that should be given to preschoolers/kids from a young age in order to shape a healthy mindset of how people learn and grow from it. I personally like how the article notes to replace Generic praise with Process Praise , as generic praise lacks instructional value. For example replacing things such as "good job" with "good job sharing with your sister" ,as these will tie the child's actions to their specific success and helping the child from a young age to Learn what is to be praised for and what is not to be praised for in the future for things such as school and work.The article also mentions the power of the word yet being used to encourage the child to keep trying and not give up on a task. This can be by using it when a child says something like "I cant do it" and responding with "you cant do it "yet". I feel this to be very true ,as I know plenty of people who could have used this type of advice in the past ,me included when not being able to do something in work, or on an assignment allowing me to learn and progress as a person and mainly allowing me a way / drive to conquer my setbacks.
- "Five Reasons to stop saying good Job" This article by Alfie Kohn focuses on Five reasons we need to stop saying "good gob" These reasons include
- Manipulating children- Referred to as sugar-coated control by Rheta DeVries as it praises them for complying with our wishes at that moment as it may have a long lasting effect in the long run. With children being so hungry for our approval people have made a habit of exploiting praise for our own convenience and will not prepare them for how things actually work in school and work life in their future.
- Creating praise Junkies - This means that kids will be come so use to praise that they will become dependent on them making it hard for them to learn valuable life skill such as learning from criticism and conquering challenges in the process.
- Stealing a child's pleasure - This highlights that in constantly praising a child's actions we take away the pleasure/delight a child may feel for actually completing their accomplishments. and to feel pride in what they learned to do.
- Losing Interest -This states that a person may only keep doing something as long as they are being watched and praised for it meaning this may seem like it is helping them but is instead making the individual attention towards this thing more distant. "the more we tend to reward people to things the more they lose interest" I found this phase in the reading to really capture the point the writer was trying to get across about this issue.
- Reducing achievement-This highlighted that a person may do a certain action in order to gain approval. It also highlights three possible responses that may improve the situation without praising the individual. these three Items were say nothing, Talk less and ask more and to say what you saw mainly focusing on things that we can say to our kids so that we do not affect them in the long run without fake praise for things that should not be praised. Helping them to develop in the future as people.
